The overall U.S. divorce rate peaked at 22.6 per 1,000 married women in 1980 and fell to 14.2 by 2024. But for older Americans, the trend is reversed - and the financial fallout is severe.
The Rising Trend of Gray Divorce
Longer life expectancies make people less willing to stay in unhappy marriages. More two-income households give both partners financial independence, and the social stigma around divorce has lessened. As Susan Guthrie, a Chicago-based divorce attorney and mediator, said, "It doesn't matter if they're high net worth or if they have fewer resources. You're talking about a lifetime of creation being completely upended late in the game."
The Financial Shockwaves
A gray divorce can devastate retirement plans. When couples split retirement funds originally earmarked for a single household, each side receives a smaller portion than expected. Women often suffer more.
Get your free investing masterclass bonus when you join Market Briefs, our free daily newsletter
Sharon Klein, president of family wealth at Wilmington Trust in New York, said: "Women need to get educated about what they have."
Frank Perrone, the cochair of the matrimonial law practice at Tarter Krinsky & Drogin in New York, described a case involving a couple in their 80s. "It's very sad," Perrone says, "everybody deserves to try to be happy."
Estate Planning Complications
The estate plan becomes a mess after a gray divorce. People may update their wills to remove former spouses but forget that other accounts - trusts, 401(k)s, life insurance - also need beneficiary updates. They may forget to change powers of attorney.
Believing they split assets fairly, they later discover that different tax liabilities on different assets gave them the short end. Jeff Judge, managing partner at Chesapeake Financial Planners, recalled a woman who realized years after her divorce that her "equal" split was not equal because she got accounts with a higher tax burden. He also recalled a client who never realized her ex-husband had left her as the beneficiary of his life insurance policy - hundreds of thousands of dollars went directly to the ex-wife.
"There's lots of little bugaboos and caveats, whatever you want to call them, that most people don't know to look for," Judge said.
With people living longer into their 80s and 90s, the financial stakes of a late-life split are higher than ever. Retirement savings that were intended to support two people now must be stretched for two separate households, often with less time to rebuild.
Even high-net-worth individuals face emotional and logistical upheaval.
Subscribe to Market Briefs, our free daily newsletter, and claim your bonus investing masterclass
